Sounds cool dude bet she will love that If its a hot day I might suggest taking my new dog to the park for a picnic .reasonsuser88 wrote: ↑10 May 2019I've been wanting to take my girlfriend to the art museum here. Well, we actually have a lot of museums here in a central location and I might see if I can buy a pass through the whole park.
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Aaaghh. Please don’t eat your dog man. Things aren’t that bad yet.sleep1979 wrote: ↑11 May 2019Sounds cool dude bet she will love that If its a hot day I might suggest taking my new dog to the park for a picnic .reasonsuser88 wrote: ↑10 May 2019
I've been wanting to take my girlfriend to the art museum here. Well, we actually have a lot of museums here in a central location and I might see if I can buy a pass through the whole park.
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So much pain in this thread I get that stories of moderation and alternatives will be hard for addicts. I understand that more than you realise, and more than I care to say. It's galling to hear other people doing things a different way, achieving happy moderate usage, when you're struggling with an addiction. But these comments are made not to shame or set an expectation or to say "I did it, why can't you?" It's to show that there is hope, the possibility for change. People can beat addiction. It is possible. And hearing others' stories can be part of that process, but you have to be ready to hear them. If you aren't ready to hear those stories, that's fine of course. But I don't think it's helpful to come into a discussion about addiction and rubbish people for sharing positive messages. What other purpose would a discussion like this serve? To share stories of addiction with no contrasting stories of hope and recovery? To share all of the negative aspects of drug and alcohol use, with no accounts of the possibilities of moderate and enjoyable usage? I don't think that is very helpful personally. If that's what you want to do, then go for it. But that clearly wasn't the intention of this thread:
The OP is asking people to share their stories, successful or otherwise. So let them. If you don't like reading positive messages about recovery from addiction, then you don't have to read them. But that doesn't mean other people shouldn't either.
She is cute man might go nice with a bit of sauce hot dog
This is my dating website pic
Its working like a treat so far dogs gotta love em
Ay mr figgs
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Thanks man i think you got it spot on theremashers wrote: ↑11 May 2019So much pain in this thread I get that stories of moderation and alternatives will be hard for addicts. I understand that more than you realise, and more than I care to say. It's galling to hear other people doing things a different way, achieving happy moderate usage, when you're struggling with an addiction. But these comments are made not to shame or set an expectation or to say "I did it, why can't you?" It's to show that there is hope, the possibility for change. People can beat addiction. It is possible. And hearing others' stories can be part of that process, but you have to be ready to hear them. If you aren't ready to hear those stories, that's fine of course. But I don't think it's helpful to come into a discussion about addiction and rubbish people for sharing positive messages. What other purpose would a discussion like this serve? To share stories of addiction with no contrasting stories of hope and recovery? To share all of the negative aspects of drug and alcohol use, with no accounts of the possibilities of moderate and enjoyable usage? I don't think that is very helpful personally. If that's what you want to do, then go for it. But that clearly wasn't the intention of this thread:
The OP is asking people to share their stories, successful or otherwise. So let them. If you don't like reading positive messages about recovery from addiction, then you don't have to read them. But that doesn't mean other people shouldn't either.
Im tired of people giving people hard times on sites , this is one of the better sites Kvr sucks with attitudes I’m glad I’m a reason user
I do understand the frustration that comes from those, who do not like when others are having success with moderation.mashers wrote: ↑11 May 2019So much pain in this thread I get that stories of moderation and alternatives will be hard for addicts. I understand that more than you realise, and more than I care to say. It's galling to hear other people doing things a different way, achieving happy moderate usage, when you're struggling with an addiction. But these comments are made not to shame or set an expectation or to say "I did it, why can't you?" It's to show that there is hope, the possibility for change. People can beat addiction. It is possible. And hearing others' stories can be part of that process, but you have to be ready to hear them. If you aren't ready to hear those stories, that's fine of course. But I don't think it's helpful to come into a discussion about addiction and rubbish people for sharing positive messages. What other purpose would a discussion like this serve? To share stories of addiction with no contrasting stories of hope and recovery? To share all of the negative aspects of drug and alcohol use, with no accounts of the possibilities of moderate and enjoyable usage? I don't think that is very helpful personally. If that's what you want to do, then go for it. But that clearly wasn't the intention of this thread:
The OP is asking people to share their stories, successful or otherwise. So let them. If you don't like reading positive messages about recovery from addiction, then you don't have to read them. But that doesn't mean other people shouldn't either.
Restraint and self control are a million miles away for some. I know quite a few homeless individuals for example, that have only ever known one gear: more more more: try to convince some of them, there is another way and they will laugh at you like you are an oblivious fool and instantly assume you had an easy life. When it comes to subjects like this, you have to anticipate resistance. It's like telling an obese individual: just eat healthier and exercise and you can reverse many of your health problems: they know that already they just cant find the consistent motivation to act on it.
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I just watched an episode of the Sopranos where a capo in New Jersey almost got killed because he made a fat joke about the wife of the New York under boss. The hit got called off after he found his wife sneaking candy bars. He saved himself too because he realized he was overreacting to the insult which would've got him killed.
Underrated and very powerful scene here.
The time has come for you to take care and comb your hair.
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You thinks right, but for the most part it's been a pretty good thread overall.
Ralphie certainly wasnt the only one, who felt the need to make fun of Jenny.
The breaks we take from the things we constantly gravitate towards, in time can give us far greater/beneficial highs than we ever found, in the dead end addictive pattern.
100 percent disagree:
Discussion about addiction leads to the most important topic in the world: Self control.
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Insight reveals the solution and the Internet is flooded with insight into anything you can ever dream of.
For now.
Welcome to the rabbit hole.
The time has come for you to take care and comb your hair.
My apologies for my attitude on friday night. This is a good thread. My drinking is a constant source of self reprisal and my anger stems from my inability to control it. I've been through a stage of going to meetings and that resulted in me being sober for 6 weeks (the longest period without booze since i was in my late teens). I am aware. I just can't find the strength to care enough.
Good luck to everyone making the effort.
Good luck to everyone making the effort.
Life is hard, and addiction makes it harder. That will come out from time to time. Don't feel bad about it. Give yourself a break, and make some time to love yourself. It's the only way.Zac wrote: ↑12 May 2019My apologies for my attitude on friday night. This is a good thread. My drinking is a constant source of self reprisal and my anger stems from my inability to control it. I've been through a stage of going to meetings and that resulted in me being sober for 6 weeks (the longest period without booze since i was in my late teens). I am aware. I just can't find the strength to care enough.
Good luck to everyone making the effort.
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I'ma drink tonight! But then again it's just the same excuse. Maybe I'll call someone tomorrow............
I have had two sunshine coffee dates in two days , first girl a really hot 42 year old says shes not used to park coffee shop dates and im different to her normal type but shall we go for a drink ( shes a party girl that one i kissed her at the park so fucj knows what would happen if she drinks ) i and i met some woman today at the park ( she was completely lying in her pics didnt fancy her at all and sounded like a man and didnt let me get a word in edge ways ) she doesnt drink and the hot one loves one , see this is what makes it hard , a good night out with the hot one probably get some snogs , go on another date with the ugly one and wish I wasnt there I give up on life #give up on lovelife lol
Just tell the one you like how it is. You’re in the process of cutting down but you don’t have anything against other people drinking and it’d be cool to go out. See what she says. She might surprise you. Nice dinner. Couple of glasses of wine for her. Cool.sleep1979 wrote: ↑14 May 2019I have had two sunshine coffee dates in two days , first girl a really hot 42 year old says shes not used to park coffee shop dates and im different to her normal type but shall we go for a drink ( shes a party girl that one i kissed her at the park so fucj knows what would happen if she drinks ) i and i met some woman today at the park ( she was completely lying in her pics didnt fancy her at all and sounded like a man and didnt let me get a word in edge ways ) she doesnt drink and the hot one loves one , see this is what makes it hard , a good night out with the hot one probably get some snogs , go on another date with the ugly one and wish I wasnt there I give up on life #give up on lovelife lol
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MrFigg took the words right out of my mouth. If the one you are attracted to is respectful, then she will understand that you are trying to cut down and not pressurise you into doing something you're not comfortable with. If she doesn't respect your feelings on this, then it's never going to work as a relationship anyway and you should move on.
As I think I've said before in another thread, be relentlessly and uncompromisingly honest. All the time, with everyone. Only then will you find someone you actually want to spend more time with.
As I think I've said before in another thread, be relentlessly and uncompromisingly honest. All the time, with everyone. Only then will you find someone you actually want to spend more time with.
Yeah your right i dont think im thinking with my head with this one , party girls dont make good girlfriends anyway unless your a party man , heard bout your op figg good luck mate .mashers wrote: ↑14 May 2019MrFigg took the words right out of my mouth. If the one you are attracted to is respectful, then she will understand that you are trying to cut down and not pressurise you into doing something you're not comfortable with. If she doesn't respect your feelings on this, then it's never going to work as a relationship anyway and you should move on.
As I think I've said before in another thread, be relentlessly and uncompromisingly honest. All the time, with everyone. Only then will you find someone you actually want to spend more time with.
Aint going out with the party girl gonna go for a coffe with a quiet girl on sunday, gonna try harder, lol updating my love life in a music forum i need a life
Good man. Honestly, no decisions should be made on the basis of emotion. Feel the emotions, sure, but make the decision on a rational basis. Rationalise everything, and if it doesn't make sense, don't do it.
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